I woke up this morning grumbling. Why is it that the respiratory illness that started a week ago is still hanging on? Why is it that my little boy is still coughing and wheezing in spite of two doctor visits and daily nebulizer treatments? I want my normal life back!

Of course, being the historian that I am, I immediately began to think about those hearty souls who first came to America, as well as those a century and more later who “tamed the wilderness.” They were, according to Dr. Peter Lillback, a “premedical society.” When they got sick, they had no doctors to go to. (Of course, later on in American history, you could always consult a barber if you had a medical complaint.) They had no 24 hour pharmacies or a plethora of cold remedies. They had to keep on working, or their survival would be in jeopardy. Illness was often more than an inconvenience–it could be life threatening.

And yet, they accepted that life was hard. They knew they could die from an accute sickness. They knew they were “dust.”

That being said, I think I have a grip now! This congestion will pass. Thanks be to God!



I have the distinct privilege of working with Stephanie Duncan of Moody Publishers on promoting THEN COMES MARRIAGE? It’s especially heart warming to me that her interest in the book has taken a personal turn–she’s  going to be married in a few weeks.

Stephanie wrote a compelling article about what it means to her to be on the threshold of building a Christ-centered marriage, and in it, she reviews points that I made about that very subject in my book.

You will be blessed, as I was, by reading her fine piece as it appears in Crosswalk–

http://www.crosswalk.com/marriage/11630911/

God bless you, Stephanie! I hope you and Zach enjoy many fulfilling years together, in Him.

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Hey All–

I am so looking forward to doing Tricia Goyer’s “Living Inspired” radio show today at 2 PM eastern. You can log on and listen live at http://toginet.com/shows/Livinginspired

Tricia and I go way back. In the mid-90s, Word published my first books, and I met fellow author Bill Myers. I remember telling him that although I had reached my dream of having books published, I often felt lonely, that I didn’t have colleagues to talk to around a water cooler.

Bill understood. He introduced me to two other writers through the internet, Lissa Hall Johnson and Robin Jones Gunn. I remember him teasing me about all these women with three names! Through those dear ladies, I began to grow a community of friends I could chat with regularly around an e-mail “cooler.”

Robin invited me to join a group of fellow writers led by aspiring author Tricia Goyer. Calling themselves the One Hearts, we quickly bonded to become a network of sisters in Christ. I have cherished those ladies literary through the thicks and thins of my life. I have always appreciated Tricia’s hard work to keep us together.

And today, here we are, about to do a radio show together! I rejoice with all that God has done through Tricia’s fabulous ministry that has reached so many people with powerful messages about life today.

I hope that you can join us! Who knows what may happen!



Thanks to Janet Mefford for a terrific radio interview on her show. She talked about how sometimes our culture seems so dark to her that she’d like to run off to a monastery. I feel that way myself at times but, you know, my husband and I are trying to create that kind of place of peace and safety right within our own home. So, our home isn’t our castle–it’s our monastery! God help us!

This Thursday it’s on to Tricia Goyer’s radio program, Living Inspired. Here’s the link:

http://toginet.com/shows/livinginspired/articles/477

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The Short Stop—They Grew Up Fast

During my recent radio interview with Debbie Chavez, she asked what surprises I uncovered while researching Then Comes Marriage? A Cultural History of the American Family. One of them concerns the way in which Americans have viewed youth and adulthood over the years.

It floors me that when a 10 certain year-old girl’s parents went on a trip a few centuries ago, they put her in charge of the household. That meant caring for the younger children and an aged grandfather, as well as cooking, keeping a fire going, chopping wood, getting water from a stream, cleaning, babysitting, and taking care of laundry. When the mother and father returned some days later, they rewarded their little girl with a new apron!

Debbie also couldn’t get over that young people in their mid-teens got married, and their parents encouraged them! What’s different between then and now is the way we view childhood; namely, we have an extended period of youthful irresponsibility. Back then, Americans saw the early years as a time of preparation for adulthood, for assuming mature behaviors and duties. They regarded children as basically undeveloped and in need of growing up as quickly as possible in order to pull their weight around a parents’ farm or business, as well as to exhibit trustworthy behavior.

I find it interesting that a few weeks ago, President Obama proposed that young people be covered under their parents’ medical insurance coverage until well into their mid-20s. By that age in colonial America, and actually all the way up until the 1950s, young people were expected to have married and be raising their own children. In 2010, however, our culture considers it virtuous to remain young for as long as possible.

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I am very excited about my first radio show to discuss THEN COMES MARRIAGE? A CULTURAL HISTORY OF THE AMERICAN FAMILY. It will be on Monday at 12:05 Eastern Time with West-coast based Debbie Chavez.

Debbie and I had a great discussion last year when WHO GOES THERE? came out, and I’m looking forward to reconnecting with her. She asks compelling questions and really does her homework!

For those of you who’d like to listen, you can log on to her website, www.debbiechavez.com at show time to listen on line.

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There’s something about sports competitions that magnify the people who play them, as well as their relationships. Maybe it’s the way in which athletes battle to overcome all kinds of difficulties, both on and off the playing field. The result is usually a compelling story of courage and perseverance in the face of adversity. In a nutshell, sports provide a metaphor for the human experience.
That’s what happened at the Masters Tournament, golf’s crowning jewel. The weekend event began with the media focused on scandal-ridden Tiger Woods, a four-time winner at the Augusta, Georgia course. How would he act? How would the fans react? In a pre-event press conference, Woods did say that his beleaguered wife would not be in attendance; they are working through the fallout from his affairs.
By the end of the Masters, Tiger had faded from the scene as the media spotlight found another, struggling, couple. Phil Mickelson, who had won the event two other times, has also had a rough time in his family, but quite a different one from his colleague’s. Last spring, his wife Amy was diagnosed with breast cancer, and just six weeks later, his mother found out that she had the same disease. Amy valiantly traveled to Augusta to be with her husband, resting in bed during the week, then coming to greet him as he finished his game-ending put. I have to confess, I reached for a box of tissues as they embraced, tears streaming down their faces. At the awards ceremony, Mickelson said, “I really want to recognize my family and my wife. We’ve been through a lot this year. It means a lot to share some joy together. It’s something we’ll share for the rest of our lives.”

May they be especially long and happy ones.

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While I was a student at Princeton Seminary in the 1980s, I met the exiled Bishop Paulos of the Ethiopian Orthodox Church. He had taken refuge at Princeton, where his tested and unshakable faith in the Lord inspired many of us students.

We learned of his six years in an Ethiopian prison with one more spent under house arrest after communist rebels overthrew the Emperor Haile Selassie’s government. A few years later, suddenly, inexplicably, the new regime freed the bishop. He realized that staying in his country might lead to further danger, so he escaped to the United States. He began a doctoral program at Princeton while pastoring a congregation of other Ethiopian exiles in New York City.

Bishop, as we called him, looked extraordinary on most days. He was easily distinguishable on campus, wearing a purple robe and Coptic-style hat, austere beard, and bejeweled cross against raven-colored skin. But on Ash Wednesday, the drama intensified. When Bishop appeared in the cafeteria that morning, it seemed as if Darth Vader had come to campus. The Ethiopian prelate wore so much black that even his cross hid discreetly in a breast pocket. He patiently explained the Coptic tradition for clergy to dress totally in black throughout Lent.

Seeing him enveloped in that ominous attire, I sometimes felt gloomy. I reflected on the battles Christians wage daily over the powers of sin and death. But the Bishop’s costume also reminded me that a Savior rescued me, bringing hope for this life and for eternity.

When Easter morning dawned, I hurried across campus for a sunrise service. Suddenly I stopped in my tracks as a vision strode toward me. As the dazzling white figure neared, I wondered if I was seeing an angel like the one who greeted Mary Magdalene so long ago! Then I realized, “It’s Bishop!” He wore so much white that even his spats testified to the message of Jesus’ awesome victory over death.

Bishop’s face glowed as he lifted his voice above the campus’s hushed stillness and proclaimed the ancient Easter greeting, “He is risen!” I joyously echoed, “He is risen indeed!”

May that message stir your soul this blessed Easter.



The other day I was driving to my dentist’s office to get a broken tooth fixed, and a sign I saw at a busy intersection seized my attention. It hung inside a store window and announced, “Easter Made Easy.” I suppose the intention was that if you come inside, you will find whatever it takes to make entertaining and gift giving easy, but whoever made that sign couldn’t possibly have thought the idea through. I mean, Easter made easy?

If Easter only means getting spring clothes, egg hunts, baskets filled with candy, and a bunny, sure.
This holiday, however, is the most sacred to Christians because it marks the ultimate sacrifice of the Lamb of God, Jesus, who came to take away the sins of the world. What Jesus went through on the night of his betrayal, his arrest, trial, tortuous beatings, carrying his cross through the streets of Jerusalem on His body, broken for us, then the crucifixion was anything but easy.
Perhaps, if Charles Schulz were still alive, he could make a sequel to his brilliant 1965 “A Charlie Brown Christmas.” In it, Linus would give a little speech explaining the events of Holy Week and Jesus’ Passion, concluding with, “That’s what Easter is all about, Charlie Brown.”



I’m excited about the news release Moody just sent out about THEN COMES MARRIAGE? Feel free to check it out–there are so many neat features, including an excerpt and interview questions. Enjoy!

http://www.mpnewsroom.com/?p=1094